I try to sit with it and feel all the things that the situation raises in me without reacting, blaming or distracting myself by being busy ( and geting exhausted) So... I take myself through a process based on some shaman practitioner training I did and ask myself. 1) What is acually happening?
What are the facts? 2)What are my thoughts, feelings and beliefs -what stories am I telling myself about myself or others ( which may not be true!!) 3) What might be possible ?.. without these stories or dramas I play in to 4) Maybe something new might open up ? Someting unexpected because I've let the light in rather than staying down with the weeds. I works for me if I am not too triggered but I am human and know that I sometimes just REACT!! Then I need to look at myself and ask the basic questions- am I hungry? have I eaten? Have I slept/rested enough? am I tired? Am I lonely or been with too many people for too long......... for me it's about change. If I want things to be differrent I have to change ( even through gritted teeth at times!) Doing the same thing again and again or reacting in the same way expecting a different result is actually crazy!
Wow, beautifully put. Thank you so much for sharing your process, Steph. I’m struck by the level of self-kindness you bring to yourself… I had never thought of asking the very basic questions you mention in the end: Am I hungry? Tired? Of course that would factor in! … And your last line reminds me of the definition of insanity I heard somewhere: "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” … Thank you for sharing your special ways of finding calm and equanimity in this bumpy, unpredictable world we live in. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
If I feel anxious I know I need to move - run, walk,swim. If I need joy I cycle on my bike very fast. If I need to quiet my mind or feel heaviness sometimes a nap and sinking into my bed, allowing myself to succumb, followed by a brisk shower, is the fix. Journalling. Weekly counselling. To do lists and mind maps. Music. It all helps
Good words today Stephanie. We keep breathing in and becoming more comfortable being uncomfortable. I love the poem's wisdom and may we lean in to this today and always. Getting outside this morning and playing hard at pickleball helped me!
Thank you for sharing a poem that really helps us see the messes as part of life but we are not alone in what's becoming in us. Such a visual of the bird tapping on the shell. Timing is everything. Emerging new selves! Yea!
I try to sit with it and feel all the things that the situation raises in me without reacting, blaming or distracting myself by being busy ( and geting exhausted) So... I take myself through a process based on some shaman practitioner training I did and ask myself. 1) What is acually happening?
What are the facts? 2)What are my thoughts, feelings and beliefs -what stories am I telling myself about myself or others ( which may not be true!!) 3) What might be possible ?.. without these stories or dramas I play in to 4) Maybe something new might open up ? Someting unexpected because I've let the light in rather than staying down with the weeds. I works for me if I am not too triggered but I am human and know that I sometimes just REACT!! Then I need to look at myself and ask the basic questions- am I hungry? have I eaten? Have I slept/rested enough? am I tired? Am I lonely or been with too many people for too long......... for me it's about change. If I want things to be differrent I have to change ( even through gritted teeth at times!) Doing the same thing again and again or reacting in the same way expecting a different result is actually crazy!
Wow, beautifully put. Thank you so much for sharing your process, Steph. I’m struck by the level of self-kindness you bring to yourself… I had never thought of asking the very basic questions you mention in the end: Am I hungry? Tired? Of course that would factor in! … And your last line reminds me of the definition of insanity I heard somewhere: "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” … Thank you for sharing your special ways of finding calm and equanimity in this bumpy, unpredictable world we live in. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Oh and if I’m overwhelmed I pick one thing to clean. Do one thing - wash the bins, fold the laundry, sort one drawer. It helps!
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If I feel anxious I know I need to move - run, walk,swim. If I need joy I cycle on my bike very fast. If I need to quiet my mind or feel heaviness sometimes a nap and sinking into my bed, allowing myself to succumb, followed by a brisk shower, is the fix. Journalling. Weekly counselling. To do lists and mind maps. Music. It all helps
Love this!!!
Good words today Stephanie. We keep breathing in and becoming more comfortable being uncomfortable. I love the poem's wisdom and may we lean in to this today and always. Getting outside this morning and playing hard at pickleball helped me!
Becoming more comfortable being uncomfortable says it perfectly. Thank you, Ruth!
Thank you for sharing a poem that really helps us see the messes as part of life but we are not alone in what's becoming in us. Such a visual of the bird tapping on the shell. Timing is everything. Emerging new selves! Yea!